I tried to fix this by unfollowing just about everyone I know personally and following as many talented photographers as I could find. The result of that decision: enormous inspiration to get out of the house and travel, but also to a confidence-shattering reflection on my own photos. Now, instead of posting what I thought was one of my best photos, I opt to hold back because it doesn’t measure up.
His example of how his neighbor's photo of their morning coffee garners more likes than his carefully curated vacation photo is also another type of pressure or anxiety that can come from using networks like Instagram. It is why I hate "likes". I've always hated likes. When I post to Instagram I turn off commenting (same for my blog). If I could turn off likes too I would. "Likes" create a false sense of value. I'm still struggling with whether or not I want to be pulling the "likes" and "shares" back to my blog from Twitter and Facebook like I have been using the Indieweb Backfeed. I have it on right now but I'm considering turning it off. I may also turn off POSSE soon but I fear my audience will shrink substantially. This is a topic for another post.
If I could turn off commenting on Facebook I would. It isn't because I don't want to read people's comments, on the contrary, I want quality comments (like the one I'm linking to from Josh right now or the one from Chris Aldrich on this same topic). Open network discussion hasn't fostered quality discourse.
One other note about Instagram and "likes"; their feed algorithm is wreaking havoc with people's expectations when posting to the service. People that used to get 10,000 likes per photo are now getting very disparate results. One will get a few thousand, the next 10 thousand, some nearly zero. The algorithm is choosing which photos get popped into people's feed. Some photos are never seen by your followers. So if you were valuing your work based on "likes" you no longer can. And if you think this isn't a problem imagine someone that makes their living based on having 7M Instagram followers that suddenly cannot guarantee their sponsors any metric at all.
I think this is why I like Instagram Stories so much. When I post to stories I see exactly who viewed each post (good) and if someone wants to reply their reply comes to me privately (also good). The drawback, however, is that the discourse that happens in private isn't of any value to the public. I'm not sure how to fix that without reintroducing the issues we see on Facebook and Instagram.